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This was in the Kansas City Star: http://www.kansascity.com/news/local/community/joco-913/olathe-southwest-joco/article207405754.html
- Find the optimistic viewpoint in a negative situation.
- Cultivate and live in a positive environment.
- Go slowly. Make yourself slow down to take a walk, eat, etc.
- Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill.
- Don’t let vague fears hold you back from doing what you want.
- Add value and positivity to someone else’s life.
- Exercise regularly and eat and sleep well.
- Learn to take criticism in a health way.
- If something still gets under your skin, then know what to do.
- Start your day in a positive way.
- Mindfully move through your day.
It is STATE ASSESSMENT TIME!
Mrs. Gottschalk- Principal- Emporia State University Master Teacher
Miss Morrow- 2nd Grade Teacher- Kansas Teacher of the Year
Ms. Osheim- 5th Grade Teacher- Horizon Award
How to hit that sweet spot of appropriate protection and independence
Posted Jun 05, 2015
"The exhausting cycle of constantly monitoring their work and performance...makes children feel less competent and confident." - Elizabeth Kolbert
It has become a commonplace idea that failure is good for kids, and builds resilience. But when children fail over and over and don't have the support to keep trying, all they learn is that they're failures. Resilience comes not from failing, but from the experience of learning that you can pick yourself up, try again, and succeed. That requires at least some experience of success, and lots of emotional support.
So it’s true that we all learn from overcoming challenges, but we also learn best when we experience success, which motivates us to tackle more difficult challenges. Mastery begets mastery. Failure sets up a cycle of lack of confidence, giving up and more failure.
We're also told that we as parents are over-protecting our children, so they don't gain confidence from learning to handle things for themselves. This is anxiety-provoking for any parent, because the line between appropriate support and helicoptering is rarely clear. (Isn't a helicopter parent just someone who hovers more than you do?) All parents want to protect their children -- that's our job! -- but we also don't want to stymie the development of self-confidence, resourcefulness and grit.
So are kids today really less confident than they used to be? I haven't seen any convincing research to support that claim. But it certainly stands to reason that the more practice children have in managing themselves and their lives, and overcoming obstacles to meet their goals, the more confidence and competence they'll develop. And I don't think it's news to any parent that our natural desire to protect our children and make sure that everything goes well for them can make us over-protective.
So how do we hit that sweet spot of appropriate support and protection on the one hand, and enough independence to foster confidence and competence on the other?
1. Stop controlling and start coaching.
Coaches help kids develop skills, but kids play the game. Your job as a parent is to support your child so she can flourish and develop. Doing things FOR her robs her of the opportunity to become competent. Doing things WITH her teaches her how and builds confidence. This means we have to manage our own anxiety and let go of our need to control.
2. Remember that perfection is not the goal.
Resist the temptation to "improve" on your child's task, unless the outcome is vitally important. Constant intervention undermines a child's confidence and prevents him from learning for himself.
3. Let him try to do it himself from the earliest age.
Rein in your own anxiety. That doesn’t mean abandoning him to it. Stand by, smiling, ready to be helpful in whatever way actually helps your child -- BUT keep your mouth shut and your hands to yourself except to give appropriate encouragement, unless you REALLY need to help.
Clucking anxiously about how worried you are as he climbs that play structure may make you feel better, and it may impress the other parents on the playground with your attentiveness, but it won't help your child. In fact, it limits him. Just ask if he is keeping himself safe, then stand by and spot him. Smile proudly. Say:
"Look at you! I knew you could do it!"
(And if he falls, you’re there to catch him. Which is, after all, what allowed him to try it.)
4. Help her build confidence by tackling manageable challenges.
Emotional development researchers call this "scaffolding," which could be defined as the framework you give your child on which she builds. You demonstrate how to do something, or you use words to suggest a strategy, or you simply spot her. This assistance helps her to succeed when she tries something new, and small successes achieved with your help give her the confidence to try new things herself. Scaffolding also teaches children that help is always available if they need it. You want your kids to know that deep in their bones before they hit adolescence.
5. Don’t set him up for failure.
Offer structure to help him succeed. Should you step in when you see failure ahead, or "let him learn a lesson"? Always a hard call. Rescuing children can prevent them from learning important lessons. But research shows that children who see their parents stand by and let them fail experience that as not being loved. Instead of learning the lesson that they should have practiced that clarinet, or read the directions on that science kit, they learn the lesson that they are failures, that they cannot manage themselves, and that their parents did not care enough to help them not be failures or teach them to manage themselves.
But isn't stepping in “rescuing them?”
That all depends on how it's done. If you take over the science fair project and do half of it the night before it's due, that's worse than rescuing: not only does your son learn that you will bail him out if he goofs off, he learns that he is incompetent.
But if you help him each step of the way to organize his ideas and his work, BUT resist the impulse to improve on the project yourself, he completes the job, hugely proud, and having learned something about how to plan and execute a complex project.
6. Encourage, Encourage, Encourage. And teach self-encouragement.
All humans need encouragement. Encouraging your child not only keeps him feeling more positive and motivated, it also gives him an inner voice that will help him to encourage himself for the rest of his life. Give your child maxims to repeat as mantras when the going gets tough. "Practice makes progress!" and "If you don't succeed, try, try again!" and "I think I can, I think I can!" are designed to help us manage our frustration. When your son goofs a piece on the piano and has to start over, or your daughter strikes out with the bases loaded, they need an automatic internal comforting voice to encourage and motivate them. Otherwise the harsh criticizing voice steps in, triggered by the disappointment.
7. Instead of evaluating, describe and empathize.
Praise evaluates the outcome of your child's action: "Good job!" It doesn't give the child much information about what was good about what he did, or why you think it was good, and it teaches the child to rely on external sources to evaluate him. You can refine your praise to make it serve your child better by giving him the power to evaluate for himself. Just describe what he did and empathize with how he must feel: "You just kept practicing and didn't give up....you must feel so good that you finished that!"
8. Focus on effort, not results.
"I see you worked so hard on this."
"How did you learn to do that?!"
Give positive feedback about specific things that she has control over, like hard work or perseverance, rather than things she feels she has no control over, like being smart. The point is never the product -- you don’t want her resting on her laurels at the age of six, or sixteen. Your goal is for her to keep trying, practicing, improving, and for her to learn that when she works hard, she can accomplish her goals.
9. Model positive self-talk.
Whatever you model, your child will learn and will emulate. Positive self-talk has been shown to improve our ability to master difficult tasks, unlike the self-disparaging comments many of us so automatically make. If something negative about your child -- or, equally important, about yourself -- starts to come out of your mouth, bite your tongue. Most parents know better than to say "What an idiot!" to their child (and most of them are able to stop themselves), but a surprising number see nothing wrong with berating themselves that way in front of their kids. Just train yourself not to do it. (It certainly isn't good for you, either. Would you let anyone else talk to you that way?)
10. Don’t be afraid of your child’s feelings.
When your child encounters frustration, remember that your empathy will be a critical factor in his overcoming it. Instead of automatically jumping in to remove the source of the frustration, give it a larger context by communicating your compassion that he has to encounter this circumstance:
"I'm sorry this is so hard..."
"It's really disappointing when...."
"This isn't how you hoped it would turn out..."
It's okay for children to get frustrated and to be disappointed. Your child may cry and sulk all day, but your unconditional understanding will help her grieve. Once she's done grieving, she'll be ready to pull herself together to try again the next day, especially when you express your confidence in her. That's how children develop resilience.
11. Don't set your child up for extra frustration.
Parents are often told that frustration is good for kids, since the world will be full of frustrations. That's a bit like saying that it's a cold, cruel world so your child should learn to sleep without blankets.
Your child will naturally develop the ability to handle increasing amounts of frustration and anxiety as he attempts more difficult challenges. But those frustrations are inherent in growing up and are guaranteed aplenty in life. There is no benefit whatsoever to setting your child up for extra frustration or negative experience. In fact, he will see your doing so as evidence of your lack of caring, which is always translated in his mind as his lack of value, and which therefore undermines his confidence.
12. Affirm your child’s ability to impact the world.
Competence and feelings of mastery are about power and derive from a child's experience of herself as having an effect on the world.
"If I stand on the stool, I can flip this light switch and light up the room!"
All children will experience reasonable limits to their power (“I can't make the rain stop, and neither can Mommy"), but the more your child has opportunities to make a difference in the world, the more she will see herself as capable.
In the end, our job as parents is to work ourselves out of a job, and it starts when our children are very young. All kids eventually grow up and live their lives without us. How they live will depend partly on whether we've been able to rise above our own anxiety and our impulse to control our child. You know the old adage about giving our children roots and wings? Unconditional love is the roots. Confidence is the wings. Young people who have both live bigger lives.
About the Author: Laura Markham, Ph.D., is the editor of Ahaparenting.com, the website of Aha! moments for parents of babies through teens, and the author of the book Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How To Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life. She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with thousands of parents.
1st place- Brady, Lois, and Jackson
1st place- Ben, Austin, Lauren
2nd place- Corbin, Lincoln, Landon
Tiger Service Club Group #2 delivered a $400 check and a Suburban full of donations to the Olathe Animal Shelter! They had a cat with no name so we helped name it- PAWS! It was a big black cat and he loved his new name!
Mr. Pitcher #jumpropeforheart
Here is the schedule for each grade level's trotting time.
Grades 1-5 are outside for 1 hour and Kindergarten is outside for 30 minutes. Lunch is served at the normal times.
Tiger Trot Day
4th Grade: 8:30
3rd Grade: 9:30
5th Grade: 10:00
1st Grade: 12:00
2nd Grade: 2:00pm
Kindergarten- Arts and Crafts
1st Grade- Legos
2nd Grade- Family Game Night
3rd Grade- Outdoor Fun
4th Grade- Day at the Beach
5th Grade- Gift-card Bouquet
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